Book 123 Magic is a popular parenting book written by Thomas W. Phelan. It provides parents with a simple and effective discipline technique for dealing with difficult behavior in children ages 2-12. The book focuses on positive discipline strategies that help parents establish control and maintain authority while promoting healthy emotional development in their children. The main concept of 123 Magic is the use of counting as a disciplinary tool. When a child misbehaves, the parent calmly says "That's 1" without any further explanation or emotion.
The most effective parenting guide for tantrums.
Thomas Phelan helps parents to quickly, calmly, and effectively stop obnoxious behaviors like tantrums and meltdowns, whining and pouting, talking back, sibling rivalry, and more by teaching your child how to regulate their emotions in a way that s safe for them and drama-free for you. The most valuable advice I got from reading 1-2-3 Magic that you can start implementing at home immediately is to avoid too much talking and too much emotion.
When a child misbehaves, the parent calmly says "That's 1" without any further explanation or emotion. If the child continues the inappropriate behavior, the parent says "That's 2" in the same manner. Finally, if the child reaches 3, a consequence or timeout is given.
1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting (Paperback)
"Everywhere you go, you keep overhearing other moms say to their misbehaving children, 'That's one. That's two. That's three.' And then you watch in disbelief as their kid actually stops!"—PopSugar Moms
The most effective parenting guide for tantrums.
Do you want to strengthen your parent-child bond? What about learning how to build self-esteem early on in your toddler, preschooler, or middle schooler? Are you ready to have a calm, happy family and home? This therapist-recommended, evidence-based book is the #1 resource for effective and enjoyable parenting using gentle techniques that work.
Since kids don't come with a manual, 1-2-3 Magic is the next best thing. Using his signature counting method, Dr. Thomas Phelan helps parents to quickly, calmly, and effectively stop obnoxious behaviors like tantrums and meltdowns, whining and pouting, talking back, sibling rivalry, and more by teaching your child how to regulate their emotions in a way that's safe for them and drama-free for you.
You'll also learn how to:
- Build a solid foundation for being a confident parent
- Manage testing and manipulation to avoid derailing your efforts
- Encourage good behavior
- Strengthen your relationship with your child
- Establish positive bedtime, dinnertime, homework, and wake-up routines
Millions of parents from all over the world have used this bestselling child discipline book to raise happier families and put the fun back into parenting—and you can too!
1-2-3 Magic is one of Healthline's Best Parenting Books of 2017, a 2016 Mom's Choice Award Winner, a 2016 National Parenting Product Award Winner and a 2016 Family Choice Award Winner.
About the Author
Dr. Thomas W. Phelan is an internationally renowned expert, author, and lecturer on child discipline and Attention Deficit Disorder. A registered Ph.D. clinical psychologist, he appears frequently on radio and TV. Dr. Phelan practices and works in the western suburbs of Chicago.
Praise For…
"Phelan’s method has a proven track record of ending the negotiations and getting kids back on track. 1-2-3
"The most valuable advice I got from reading 1-2-3 Magic that you can start implementing at home immediately is to avoid too much talking and too much emotion. the 1-2-3- program is as much a control on parental anger as it is on children’s behavior. " — Outnumbered 3 to 1
"The book has a lot of great, helpful information. Anyone who has children, no matter what age, can learn from this. " — Cassandra’s Place
"1-2-3 Magic helped me quickly identify the areas that I was messing up with my kids, and showed me how I could change those bad habits and trade them in for solid tactics to use when my kids were not listening as they should be. The best part, is that it literally only took a couple days for my kids to completely jump on board with the program. This book is worth it’s weight in gold and will change your family’s life." — The Simple Moms
"If you are a parent of young kids I do recommend that you pick up this book for a read as it would help you understand more about how to cope with your children during their outbursts." — Dominique’s Desk
"Lays out a simple program for parents to help manage, and keep from overreacting, to behavior that seems incessant and annoying, like a continual request for junk food right before dinner." — Tri-City Herald
"Since the sixth edition of the self-proclaimed No. 1 child-discipline book in America came out last year, Dr. Phelan's strategies have seen a resurgence in the parenting world. Maybe that's why you feel like everywhere you go, you keep overhearing other moms say to their misbehaving children, "That's one. That's two. That's three." And then you watch in disbelief as their kid actually stops! " — PopSugar
"The book spells out how you can help your child deal with their emotions, encourage good behavior, and strengthen the parent-child relationship. He includes clear advice for many roadblocks you find in a day of parenting. " — Healthline
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"Lays out a simple program for parents to help manage, and keep from overreacting, to behavior that seems incessant and annoying, like a continual request for junk food right before dinner." — Tri-City Herald
This technique aims to teach children self-control and responsibility for their actions by giving them a chance to correct their behavior before facing consequences. The book also emphasizes the importance of establishing clear rules and expectations, as well as providing guidance on effective communication and problem-solving techniques. It provides practical advice on how to handle various discipline challenges, including temper tantrums, arguing, and sibling rivalry. One of the strengths of 123 Magic is its simplicity and ease of implementation. The counting technique is straightforward and can be applied in various situations, making it accessible for parents of different parenting styles and backgrounds. Additionally, the book emphasizes the importance of maintaining a calm and consistent approach to discipline, which can help reduce power struggles and improve parent-child relationships. Overall, Book 123 Magic offers parents a practical and effective discipline approach for managing challenging behaviors in children. It provides valuable insights and strategies that can help parents create a positive and supportive environment for their children to thrive..
Reviews for "Empowering Children through the Book 123 Approach"
1. Sarah - ★☆☆☆☆
I was really disappointed with "Book 123 magicc". The writing style felt choppy and it was hard to follow the storyline. The characters were one-dimensional and I couldn't connect with any of them. Overall, it lacked depth and failed to engage me as a reader. I wouldn't recommend it.
2. John - ★★☆☆☆
"Book 123 magicc" had an interesting premise, but it fell short in execution. The plot was predictable, and there were several plot holes that were never addressed. The pacing was uneven, with long stretches of boredom followed by rushed and unsatisfying resolutions. I had high hopes for this book, but unfortunately, it didn't live up to my expectations.
3. Lisa - ★★☆☆☆
I found "Book 123 magicc" to be quite underwhelming. The writing was mediocre and lacked any real depth. The characters were forgettable, and there was little development throughout the story. The ending felt rushed and unsatisfying, leaving me with more questions than answers. Overall, it was a letdown and I wouldn't recommend it to others.
4. Mike - ★☆☆☆☆
I couldn't get into "Book 123 magicc" at all. The plot was confusing and disjointed, and I found myself having to reread passages to understand what was happening. The writing was lackluster and didn't capture my attention. The supposed twists and turns were predictable and not well-executed. I ended up giving up on this book halfway through, as it just wasn't enjoyable for me.